Tag Archives: Healing

Yes, #metoo

To my fellow #metoo survivors, I am so thankful to have met you and have been witness to your strength. Without uttering a word, we both know what the other has suffered at the hands of others. Knowing that we have this commonality, while not something to celebrate, truly is a gift. Few can truly understand, and many, no matter how close to us they are, will never share that commonality and understanding that you and I and too many others do.

This is such an awkward time. There are so many who support us and stand up for us even if they don’t know our names or faces, who “celebrate” this scandal as a victory of sorts, uncovering the ugly secrets from the back of the Hollywood closets and recognize that open communication and solidarity are the only things that can keep this plague of systemic abuse at bay.

#MeToo: Harvey Weinstein case moves thousands to tell their own stories of abuse, break silence

They’re right, but sadly no matter how much we appreciate their support, what they don’t realize is that as this story stays in the forefront, all of us…even without thinking about one single detail of our own incidents, are drowning in the flood of emotions that come with it. Some might call it empathy, however, I think PTSD is a more apt description. We’re left trying to stay on our feet while these waves come crashing against us, furiously trying to keep our head up and not get pulled down by the undertow.

So for those of you who see #metoo, we thank you for your support even though we might not be able to say it just yet, and please know that your support will help in our healing.

I wish you peace and prosperity, 

Maggie ॐ

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Joy is the Greatest Blessing of All

When I tell people that I lived in a homeless shelter, the knee-jerk reaction is almost always an immediate “I’m sorry!” And tell them “Why? I’m not”, which usually puts them in just enough shock so as to listen.

Living in the shelter, I regard as one of the most beautiful experiences in my life. I had nothing, they had nothing. And yet I had friends who had my back and not because they could get something from me, or get somewhere because of me, etc.

To experience that much honesty is so overwhelming and it has changed me forever. It was then that I stopped caring about doing what other people wanted or working for other people’s attention or acceptance (emotionally abusive marriage aside) because I could see the price tag of one’s actions.  It is for those reasons that I found a way to reach out and help others, it is my motivation to not only feel but also share those feelings.

I am blessed to have 5 best friends along with Kid. And I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that these relationships are honest and that we want nothing from or for each other but love and happiness. I know of no other blessings in life that are more valuable than these.

 

These last 7 years have been harder than I can put into words, but there is still the blessing of the friendships I have, the support they have given me, and after wading through the muck finding myself again and realizing my own self-worth. There is no greater blessing.

It is my personal belief that happiness is fleeting, joy is forever.  It marks your heart, it warms you in a cold world.  Happiness is a pay raise or going to a concert or having dinner with friends.  Joy is the love you feel from others, it is the love you have for your children, your family of friends, etc.  It is the feeling that “I’m going to be okay” in a devastating situation.  Joy is the permanent marks on your heart and soul that heals you, that warms you to the core, that keeps you going and can make you smile in a room by yourself when you think about and feel those moments all over again because they are permanently attached to your soul.

Joy is the permanent marks on your heart and soul that heals you, that warms you to the core, that keeps you going and can make you smile in a room by yourself when you think about and feel those moments all over again because they are permanently attached to your soul.

It is the feeling that “I’m going to be okay” in a devastating situation. It’s a person of faith’s feeling the love and serenity of their God.  Joy is the permanent marks on your heart and soul that heals you, that warms you to the core, that keeps you going and can make you smile in a room by yourself when you think about and feel those moments.

Maggie 

Dedicated to Matthew, Cheri, Dani, Steph, Bonna & Kid.  I wouldn’t be here today without all of you.

Lavender – A Must Have Herb

Lavender Collage

Lavender, Lavandula officinalis, is a showy herb that can be included in a medicinal, culinary or ornamental garden. The botanical name lavandula comes from the Latin word lavare, meaning “to wash.”   A key ingredient in soaps and shampoos, sachets, perfumes and seasonings, it has been long revered in literature as a herb of love.

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The use of lavender as a strewing and bathing herb by the Romans is well documented. Though many enjoy this wonderful herb for its soothing and calming effects, you may not realize that it is also an incredible healing agent for burns, wounds, insect bites and stings. Lavender essential oil is a gentle and inexpensive addition to any holistic medicine chest. The essential oil has the special trait of being safe to used “neat”, meaning straight on the skin without needing the addition of a carrier oil such as coconut or olive oil. It soothes burns immediately and without any sting.

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Lavender is most frequently taken or used in the form of an essential oil derived from the flowers by distillation with water.  Applied on the skin it has antibacterial and antiseptic qualities as well as to increase circulation in the skin and can even repel insects. Rubbed on the temples, it can relieve a headache, and on insect bite relieve the itching, sting and inflammation.  Ingested it calms nerves, reduces muscle tension and can relieve muscle cramping and gas.  Due to its many wonderful properties, many herbal remedies often include lavender.

Burpee GardeningParticularly good to repel moths, its so much better than using toxic moth balls around the house and it smells so much better too!  To enjoy the subtle, calming aroma, toss a muslin bag of dried lavender into the dryer with each load of sheets and towels or put a few drops of essential oil on a washcloth during the last 15 minutes of the dryer cycle.

Lavender can also be brewed as a tea, or added to pitcher of lemonade for a refreshing summer drink!