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Mountains or Clouds – Who Are You?

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This blog is dedicated to simple living and for me it’s more than just non-toxic cleaners, but non-toxic people as well.

I read a fabulous article today about The 4 Excuses We Use to Hold on to Frenemies”.  A great read, true in every sense.  We all have toxic people in our lives at some point.  Some are easier to eliminate than others.  I think we all get to a certain crossroads with people in our lives where we have to remove them or ourselves for self preservation.

I started a few years back in my own “people diet”, trimming those from my life who generate negativity.  My suffering has been minimized and my joys have increased.  I’m my own worst enemy when it comes to allowing people to treat me badly, so everyone now and again, I have to stop and assess my relationships.

  • Do I need to give more time and energy to make this relationship work?
  • Does it cause me or the other person more anguish than joy?
  • Is this relationship one sided? Am I the only one putting in effort?

This may sound odd, but sometimes you need to evaluate.

I see people every week on Facebook ranting about how they’re tired of “the drama” but won’t take the steps to remove it from their lives or to remove themselves from the situation.  Why?  Because we’re taught that quantity rules over quality.

I, like most people, have only a handful of people I’m close to, yet according to Facebook I have a couple of hundred friends.  In the grand scheme of things, I really don’t care for that word when it comes to online socializing.  These folks are not friends, they are my acquaintances; they’re people I’m friendly with but really are not friends with in the truest sense of the word.

My handful of friends are there, through thick or thin, through hell or high water, no matter what and I know it.

I was reminded of that again just last week at my going away party.  Of the 80 or so that were invited from my “friends list”, only the handful came.  At first it bothered me a bit, until I realized that I was being greedy for quantity over quality.  Something we all tend to defer to from time to time even though we know it’s quality that matters.

Those that came are the people I will be coming back to visit and who will coming to see me.  We will stay in touch and check on each other because we care that much about each other and their spouses, children, etc. These are the people who can bring a smile to my face sitting in a room next to me not saying a word or who can make me laugh while I’m crying my eyes out and I can do the same for them.  These are my friends.  These are who matter.

My true friends are the permanent mountains on the landscape of my life.  The rest are just clouds… they drift in, drift out, sometimes they make the day pretty and let the sun in, sometimes they block the sun and just bring storms.  Funny thing about mountains, they’re always there, always strong.  Sometimes the clouds obscure your view of them, but you can have faith they’re right there.

My mountains are the people who never stir drama just to watch others suffer, who only build me up and encourage me.  They provide shade and shelter from the storms of my life and strength when I am at my weakest.

Friendship, marriage, relationship… all the same thing really.

They take time and they take work but they are so worth it.  Don’t try to appeal to the masses, spend your energy bringing quality to those who bring it to you.  Remember that the only person you can force to be a good friend.. is you.

Look at the landscape of your life.  Find your mountains and just let the clouds drift by.  Enjoy the scenery of your mountain chain and the joy of simple living will be yours.

{{{hugs}}}

Maggie

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Giving Thanks Every Day

I just found a fabulous frugal craft on Snail Pace Transformations.   (Btw, I LOVE your name!)  It is a gratitude journal, a place to log a sentence or two of what you were thankful for every day.  This is number one on my Christmas list this year, very inexpensive and yet very personal.

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I admit that I am one of those people that sometimes have to work at staying positive.  Sometimes it’s very easy for me to get caught up in the tide instead of just enjoying the beauty of the beach so I look for little things to keep me on the path I choose.  I saw this craft and I jumped.  Whether its a gift for friends and family or just for yourself, its a great way to just a a minute a day to give thanks for what you have.

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It all starts with dollar store calendars, the kind that show one week at a time. Like this…

I love the thought of making this part of my bedtime ritual, just a sentence or two of what I was thankful for today. Instead of going to bed dealing with the stresses of the day, fall asleep relishing and reviewing what you had to be thankful for.  Positivity breeds positivity.  And imagine making this a bedtime ritual with your child, even if a young one is not yet ready to write, it makes for a great dialog as you tuck them in and how it can shape them for the future.

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Then you can cover the outside with contact paper, your favorite pattern of duct tape or personal art.

Not only does it help in the training of a positive mind, but can you imagine being able to look back and read these a year, 5 years or 10 years down the line?  To bring back all those wonderful memories and feelings of days gone by.   Imagine your kids stumbling upon one of these once you’re gone and getting to remember all the best of you, with you.

Giving thanks isn’t just for one Thursday in November.  Spread the word.

{{hugs}}

Maggie

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Update:  I just found this great video that I just had to share.  It ties in with this project so beautifully and really gets your wheels of creativity going.

Let me know what ideas you have!