Stop Making Excuses, They’re Not Babies!

“He’s just a little boy…” MY ASS

Especially for us older folks, think back to what you were doing and what you got away with before the age of 16. Saying what he did, it’s no different than saying “I’m going to build a bomb and blow up the school”.

I use that example specifically, because a kid I went to school with (I was in 10th with his sister, he was in 9th), blew off most of his hand while building a pipe bomb to blow up the math building because the teacher ruined his perfect 4.0 and gave him a B. This is before the video games, before the mass shootings, before YouTube, before public access to the Internet, Jackass movies, or anything else you want to point a finger at.  This happened 38 years ago.

I knew a lot of people who got away with a lot of shit back then (and since) and a few that got caught… including myself. I’m sure that if this exact situation would have happened with any of the other mass shooters, their parents would be saying the same damned thing.

And if he is just blowing smoke and making idol threats like that, he needs to be taught a fucking lesson because clearly, it’s not going to be taught by you. How many times have we seen kids committing suicide only to find out that they were getting messages from others telling them to kill themselves because they’re worthless, etc?  And then to have no consequences?  I’m sorry, they’re not babies.

How many 15-year-old young adults (because that’s what they are) have already had sex? How many already have children?? Clearly, they’re not babies and have to live with the consequences of their actions, so why shouldn’t a kid who’s threatening to shoot up his school with an M-16?

Our job as parents is to raise functional adults.  Period.  The quicker people get their heads out of their asses and recognize the responsibility that they volunteered for, the better off this entire country will be.  No more “they’re just children…”, “kids will be kids” or “boys will be boys”.  These are excuses for bad behavior, and if you are making these excuses for your offspring then clearly you’re not doing your job right.  There are three stages of human development, and only three.  They are infants, toddlers, and adults-in-training. 

Everything they are taught… at home, in school, or by the media (TV, Internet, games, social networks, etc), shape who they will be and how they will be as adults.  Our job as parents and mentors, is to teach them, in a safe environment where they can fail and learn from it.  Evaluate what they did wrong, change/adjust your methodology, and try again . 

“For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction” is not just Newton’s Third Law of Physics, it’s life.  Don’t throw a punch with anything less than the expectation of getting punched back, or suspended, or arrested, or whatever.  Everything in life has consequences, some good, some bad, but to let a child grow and learn that they’re immune from consequences is not only irresponsible, it’s dangerous, and it can kill.

Maggie  

 

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