I saw a piece that came through on Buzz Feed entitled 31 Delightful Things To Do By Yourself. I really enjoyed seeing that piece come around and I really hope that it inspires younger people to do things solo. Not just because it’s frugal, but because it’s necessary. When I was younger I didn’t know how to spend time with myself nor did I want to. While I love spending time with friends and family, I am finally at a point in my life where I enjoy my own company. It took me way too long to get here.
After all the years that I spent being an active mother and wife, I realized that I spent my time as the hub in all the activities. I was included with each person individually and as a family, but I never went off on my own adventures even though my husband kept unsuccessfully trying to encourage me to do so. (Thanks for trying ARV, you were right.)
My daughter moved out and that was a bit of an adjustment. I think kids are more prepared to leave the house then the parents are to let it happen. With her gone, it just left me and my husband together (constantly) and that was not good at all. After a few years of that we separated and it left me alone and scared to death.
Here I am two years later, and while I still enjoy my time with others, I’ve really come to value and enjoy my time by myself. I write, I paint, I craft, I read, and I meditate. I spend time with you and the rest of my online friends. I enjoy going out to dinner occasionally (when I can afford it LOL) with my kindle.
I like going shopping and just wandering around the stores looking at things, or going for a drive and checking out the landscape. I love listening to music, I read and occasionally I turn on the TV. And the best part? I never have to negotiate what I’ll be watching or feeling trapped and wishing I could be doing something else instead.
As we go through life we find out that we don’t stay the “hub”, as our children become the “hub” of their own families and lives. We may be married, single (or widowed). We need to enjoy ourselves and value ourselves as others do. So take the time to make friends with yourself; take yourself out on dates, spend quality time with yourself and make sure you’re giving yourself the same time out of “family time” that other family members get, you really need it.
What things to you enjoy doing on your own?